If you’ve been in your twenties for any amount of years you have probably felt the feeling of a quarter life crisis even if you haven’t full blown had one. Feeling lost, confused, and not knowing where to go is all apart of the joy of coming into adulthood. If you are in the midst of it currently I’m here to tell you I’ve been there, it does get better, but in the meantime I have some tips to help you get through the thick of it.
I wrote a lot, so let’s get to it guys! :)
What To Do In The Middle Of A Quarter Life Crisis
// READ PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT BOOKS
I didn’t start getting into these types of books until I decided I was in the middle of my “twenty something breakdown” I like to call it. I didn’t want to be where I was anymore and personal development books were my last resort in a way. But I’m so grateful!
I think personal development books have sort of this bad stigma, like counseling or something. Like, “Oh a self help book? You can’t figure it out life on your own?” Because you know, doing something all by yourself has become a badge of honor in our society. Like needing or accepting help is a sign of weakness or something. When in fact some of the smartest and most successful people are the ones that read these types of books. They are the ones that are constantly growing, working on themselves and learning how to be better and do better.
During your twenties and during a quarter life crisis reading these types of books will be the key to moving forward. Like I said, I didn’t start reading until I basically didn’t have any better options to turn to, but it turned out to be the best move. They’ve taught me about myself, about God, about my mind and how it works, and about how to actually go after dreams and what that looks like.
I’m currently in the middle of “You Are A Badass” by Jen Sincero and I’m not even that far into it and it’s already kicked me in the butt so much I’m like, “ALRIGHT LET’S DO THIS!”
So yeah, you need to start reading those like ASAP.
Note: There are tons of lists of books to read in your twenties on Pinterest. So if you need suggestions, I’d start there! ;)
// PRAY, MEDITATE, AND HAVE LITERAL QUIET TIME
Whether you believe in the creator of the universe or not I’d be remiss to not put this in here as my advice to working through a quarter life crisis. So much of what a quarter life crisis is involves trying to figure out your purpose in life and what you were created for. What better way to find that out than to simply ask the creator himself. Setting aside quiet time to be praying and talking to God about my frustrations, fears, and dreams has come to be the most humbling yet uplifting times.
Admitting your fears and failures but also your dreams and hopes has a strange juxtapotaion with it. But again, talking to the creator about this life He created for you has a calming affect. If you think no one gets it or understands, He does.
If you don’t feel it right away, keep at it. Sooner or later He’ll start showing you answers to the questions you’re asking.
// WORK OUT
This is something else I did when I went through my own experience of a quarter life crisis. I started trying new things, ways to “fix” what was wrong with me. While working out didn’t “fix” me it did have incredible benefits. The act of exercise has many benefits in and of itself, but just the act of doing it I’ve found gives you so much more confidence than results do sometimes.
Being able to see a change is awesome but feeling different I think had a bigger impact for me. For instance, I felt just as hardcore and confident after my first workout as I did after my twentieth. The act of completing a workout impacts you positively by boosting your confidence and mood which in the middle of a tough time is exactly what you need. Not to mention those endorphins! Phew!
// DO CREATIVE WORK, ANY WORK
Before any of you groan the words, “Oh I’m just not a creative person!” Simmer down and give me a chance.
Even if you are not a creative person doing something creative is still a good way to help relieve stress, use your other side of the brain and get you thinking outside the box. It pushes you in good ways outside your comfort zone.
The key is to find a creative activity that won’t stress you out because you don’t know exactly what to do. For those not creatively inclined I’d say just having an adult coloring book (yes, I know everybody has one!) that you go back to once or twice a week will help you start stepping outside the normal routine you’ve set yourself. You never know, you may, dare-I-say, like it!?
For those that are creatively inclined, make time to be creative and hone that craft you love. Don’t just let that slide by because you need to get a “real job”. Sure go get that boring “real job” but be working on those creative projects you love so much on the side. There is a reason you love it, there is purpose in your work. So don’t let go of it.
The worst thing I ever did was stop writing for a few years because I thought there was no point in it. I still think about how I set myself back so much in progress by not working on that skill everyday.
If you are creatively inclined, you were made to create, don’t stop that for nothing.
BONUS // KNOW YOU HAVE A PURPOSE
You’ll probably end up reading this in one of the personal development books if you actually follow my advice and read some, but I’m going to put it here just in case you don’t. There is a reason you are on this planet. You. With every hair on your head and cell in your body. You were made on purpose for a purpose. Even if you don’t always feel like it, you need to remember it. That fact never changes no matter what job you have, who you marry, or what you do with your life.
So remember that, even when you don’t want to okay?
Oh, also remember we’ve all been there! If you want proof email me and I can tell you all about it! ;)