It seems in life we are always on the hunt for the next thing. We are always wishing for something else something different than what we already have. It’s a cycle that never really brings contentment. Instead we get something we wanted and then quickly move on to wanting something else.
One of the first steps to moving towards minimalism is minimal spending. One of the first steps towards minimal spending is learning to want less and to be content with what you have. You’ll most likely never be a minimal spender if you continually want newer things. Today I want to help you work towards getting over that. Today I want to talk about ways to help you be content in life.
Three Ways To Help You Be Content In Life
1. Remember that there were times you were praying for things you have now.
Whether you believe in prayer or not, this statement’s meaning still stands true. There was a time you wanted something that you own now. There were times in your life you wished to be where you are now. It might be something simple like just having a job, or it might be something bigger like you prayed to get pregnant. There are things in our life, big and small, that we wanted or needed in the past and now present day we have.
To help you think of some of yours just think backwards in life steps. You can do this with big things like your jobs or career, or you can even do it with smaller things like items or maybe skills you have learned. My advice would be to start where you feel discontent and work in that category.
In my life I’m having a hard time being content with where I live. I really am ready to own a house of my own. So when I start to feel that feeling I remember how I had once prayed that we could rent this specific apartment we are in now and what I love about it. Then I remember how before that Greg and I got to live in an apartment with a yard that we had wanted. Then I even go back and remember how badly I wanted to move out of my parents house and on my own for the first time. It’s easy to feel content and blessed when you remember where you’ve come from.
2. Remember how blessed you truly are in every situation.
If someone asks us what we are missing in life It’s easy to see to tell them what we want or need. But if someone asks us what are we blessed by in our life, it takes a few minutes for us to answer. It’s not because we are ungrateful, we are just trained to see what’s missing, what we don’t have rather than what we do.
In order to combat that habit start training yourself to be constantly thinking of things you are grateful for and continually remember the things you have that others are hoping for right now!
If we are being really honest, if you have clean water, food on the table and somewhere to sleep tonight you are already more blessed than many other people in the world. Beyond that, if you have a job, any job, whether it is your dream job or not, be grateful. If you have any family or friends that love you, be grateful. If you have all your limbs and no major medical issues, be grateful. Even if you have some medical issues but they are not life threatening, be grateful.
The grass is not greener on the other side. We all have our own patch of grass with weeds, discoloration, and some dirt. It’s up to us to take care of it. It’s up to us to water it, get rid of the weeds if we can and put seeds down where it needs it. Most importantly though, it’s up to us to decide if we want to only look at the weeds or patches of dirt or if we want to see all the grass that is growing perfectly.
I guarantee if you start counting the blades of grass in your life that are perfectly healthy you’ll have a lot more contentment.
3. Quit looking at other people’s lives.
Social media is wonderful. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a big fan. But you need to know when to quit. Do a quick test for yourself. You just read a couple of big points about finding contentment so I’m betting you are starting to feel a little better about your life.
Now, go on to Instagram or Facebook. Scroll through your typical feeds like you normally do for a few minutes and then come back.
Do you still feel as content as you did a moment ago?
No, you probably don’t. I’m betting you are thinking of why Betty Sue’s hair always has perfect beach waves or how so-and-so is always on vacation. It’s a horrible habit of living our own lives and then looking at others lives and comparing the two. If you want to truly start to become content in your life stop doing that.
First of all, you are only seeing highlights of their life. Second of all their actions have no effect on you or your life so you don’t need to keep up with them. And finally, if something is only bringing you down and making you feel discouraged the smartest thing to do is to get rid of it!
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I know that this is all easier said than done but let me tell you, once you even get close to finding contentment life gets a lot easier. It’s worth the effort. Get rid of the things that make you feel like less than and start focusing on your own goals for your life and actually working towards those!
It’s an uphill journey but one that will always be worth it from the top!